remember when my friend Kristin sent me these pictures. She had come over when I was just a few days postpartum to capture the magic and she had been at the birth as well. When I saw this picture, I felt so much body shame I decided I would never share it. In that time I couldn’t see this strong powerful body that had just grown a healthy 9 lb baby boy and birthed at home, surrounded by an incredible birth team.
Why is there so much shame around the mother’s body? Or any body for that matter? Why is there an entire industry around “getting your back body before baby?”
I’m guilty of this just as much as the next person. More than once, people have said nearby me after I’ve just birthed babies in days past or weeks past, “I wonder when the body goes back to normal” like I’m not right there and can hear exactly what’s being said.
I got all of the medicine I asked for this morning. I got stressed out, overwhelmed, lost myself, nearly flipped out, yelled at my internet speed and at my computer, cried, and then managed to get centered again. I had a feeling as I woke up this morning that I might feel that way and sure enough, it’s what I created.
Lately I've been feeling rather excited about this topic and writing about it... I have many people in my life who seem constantly impressed with how much I do. While I'm all about the flattery and basking in the love, and I do get a lot done of a huge variety, I'm always pushed to justify my attitude around it all.